jcb wrote: ↑Tue Mar 26, 2024 10:57 am
All that changed when the sexual abuse scandals began to break.
When would you (or your late partner) say that the scandals peaked?, and that the suspicion started to appear? When I was a child/teenager in the church, I wasn't aware about the sexual abuse scandals until the Boston Globe report in 2002.
The
Wikipedia article on the subject dates the dawning of modern awareness of the extent of the problem to a
National Catholic Reporter article published in June of 1985. Now that's a fairly obscure source, not well known even within Catholic circles, and I don't recall hearing of it at the time. I had just finished my first year at an all-boys private Catholic highschool operated by the Marianist order. We were very aware of the stigma of going to an all-boys school (which manifested itself as some of the virulent homophobia I've ever experienced) and we suspected some of the priests and brothers of being gay, but I don't think it was common knowledge that some of the clergy were molesting some of the students. I do remember some crude jokes and, in my second year, one of my classmates (who later dropped out and came out as bi) made a crack about luring the assistant principal to an empty office and I wasn't sure how seriously to take it.
A couple years later, however, a friend a year ahead of me came out as gay and told me that the same brother, now the school principal,
had in fact molested one of his classmates. Some time after that, I was talking with him after school and a friend of ours came in to tell us that the principal had just made a pass at him. He didn't bother to report it though. Shortly after I graduated in 1988, I learned that the principal had left the school to go to culinary school in Texas. This was, of course, presented as a personal decision. (It was a while before I--and other Catholics--began to recognise the pattern of "reassignments" for what they were.) I talked about my second-hand experiences with other gay guys in college, and some reacted with surprise. I remember one in particular, who also went to a Catholic school, begging me not to talk about the subject.
However, reports continued to come out in the 90s and got some coverage in the mainstream press. In 1998, there was a major scandal in the Dallas archdiocese which was reported in the
New York Times and elsewhere. This is around the time I met my future husband and him explaining that he had to tell people he was laicised in good standing and not defrocked following a scandal, so I would say definitely by the late 90s there was general awareness of the issue in the USA though it wasn't universal and the scope probably wasn't apparent to most people until the prosecutions in Boston (which made clear the extent to which bishops, cardinals, and other senior prelates were involved in concealing the abuse).